Relationships between Black men and Black women

It was very unnerving to find out what some black men think of black women as a whole. A small group that my sister belongs to at our church decided they would sit down and talk with a few brothers to see how they felt about their black sisters. Much to my surprise and some of the other ladies, a lot of black men don't think too highly of us. Some of the guys said that we are too head strong, too independent, nagged too much and didn't keep up our appearances once we were married to them. Speaking as a black woman I feel the need to defend my other black sisters. We have been through a lot of struggles in our lives, not only because of the color of our skin, but also because we are women in general. Some of us have suffered through mental and physical abuse, abandonment, rejection, single parenting, racial inequality, and so on and so fourth, so that could very well explain why we are all those things they like to refer to us as. Some of them think we are all gold diggers looking for someone to take care of us, pay or bills, buy us clothes and shower us with money for hair do's and manicures and pedicures. Wake up men, and open your eyes, look at all the good things we are and the good things we do. Black men feel like we give them a bad rep, but what about what they do to us.? We raise our children, we work hard and yes, we do bring our half to the table. We might not all look like Victoria Secret models, but some of us look just as good if not better. People as a whole need to stop being so superficial and look at the things that are really important. Look at our characters, how we carry ourselves, do we take pride in who we are? do we keep ourselves and our homes neat and tidy? do we take care of the kids? and yes, what about those of us that do take care of our men and are supportive of them? give us a break, stop looking for the 20% when you already have the 80%, except us for who we are, and help us to grow in positive ways, give us encouragement to be better, so that you benefit in a positive way. We do in general love our black brothers in spite of what they think we are.